Welcome to #InspireAfricaProject! Some people think that believing in themselves is a sign of arrogance, but they failed to understand that the opposite of self-confidence is self-pity! You cannot stand out in your generation without believing in yourself.
It will be difficult to achieve great things in life if you don’t believe that you’re capable of achieving them. You cannot succeed in business if you don’t believe in yourself and in your business. By the way, if you don’t believe in yourself who will believe in you?
Thomas J. Stanley shared a powerful story that shows the importance of believing in yourself. “Tom Mann often credited with inventing one of the most widely used lures for fishing. Billions of this type of lure have been sold–the rubber worm. Mr. Mann is more than an inventor. He is world-class fishing pro, and he has scientifically studied fish and the productivity of fishermen, lures, techniques.
I had the pleasure of hearing him discuss the really big element in the fishing equation, but he was not touting his own invention. Mr. Mann said that the best lure for catching fish is the one the fisherman has the greatest confidence in. If you have great confidence in your lure, you’ll fish with confidence. You will succeed if you believe. Even the fish know who has confidence.
What Mr. Mann told his audience hit me like a bolt. I love to fish, and I have many lures. I’ve been fishing since age seven, but I don’t think I ever caught a fish with a lure that I didn’t completely trust to catch fish. I cannot recall one exception to Mr. Mann’s statement. So it is with success in life. If you lack self-confidence, you’ll find it difficult to become successful, because it’s extremely hard to be motivated if you don’t believe in yourself.”
If you fail to believe in yourself and your ideas, how can you communicate its value to others? Whenever I am conducting a training for salespeople, I usually tell them that they can never succeed in selling any product if they don’t believe in it. It’s a psychological thing. What you don’t believe in will never succeed.
It’s very easy to prefer the grass that is greener because somebody laboured to keep it clean and beautiful. That’s why some men will praise married women who look beautiful and attractive, but fail to give their wives money to look beautiful for them too. There is no ugly woman anywhere, all she needs is to be loved and supported, and she will look beautiful by packaging herself well. But a man who does not believe in his own wife will be staring at other women outside, while humiliating his own wife at home!
I have also discovered that some men struggle big time when their wives do not believe in them. When I hear a woman say, “Is Aliko Dangote not a man like you? He is the richest black man on earth and you cannot even feed us in this house”, I feel totally disappointed. You are using the same mouth you should have used to inspire him to go out and take over the world to humiliate him because you don’t even believe in your own man. Somebody believed in Aliko Dangote even when he was personally selling salt, millet, rice and other items in the market.
Whenever you see grass that looks greener, always remember that someone laboured to make it look so. If you can believe in your own grass, pay the required price in nurturing it, very soon you won’t look for greener pasture the rest of your life! But the question is, do you believe in your grass?
Some Nigerians are rushing to different nations across the world including, Cyprus, Vietnam, Sri Lanka, and other tiny nations that doesn’t have the kind of opportunities we have in Nigeria because we don’t even believe in our own nation. After watching the video of David Cameron saying that Nigeria and Afghanistan are fantastically corrupt I blamed ourselves including our president.
No president will go to other nations and say his country is corrupt because you’re the number one marketer of that nation. But our president has succeeded in demarketing us around the world. If the number one citizen of a nation can stand before the world media and call his people corrupt, why wouldn’t David Cameron add FANTASTICALLY to it?
There is no nation on earth that is not corrupt including United States of America and England, but they don’t blow their trumpet the way we do. Nigeria cannot soar until we believe in her. As long as you don’t believe in your nation and the possibility of creating wealth in it, you will keep running around in search of greener pasture.
The nation you’re running to has its own challenges too. I pity young people who are travelling through the desert so that they can get to a nation where money grow on trees. In case you don’t know, there are beggars on the streets of Washington in America, Berlin in Germany, London in England and Paris in France. There are no nation where money grow on trees, you must labour to make money. I have seen a lot of these young people who came back to Nigeria and regretted wasting their precious money on a wild goose chase!
Richelle Goodrich says that, “You may be the only person left who believes in you, but it’s enough. It takes just one star to pierce a universe of darkness. Never give up.” Turcois Ominek opined, “Don’t doubt yourself, that’s what haters are for.”
David J. Schwartz corroborates today’s op-ed by saying, “Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.”
Dear friend, believe in your lure! Believe in your business, ideas, spouse, vision, your shop, your inventions, yourself and most importantly, believe in God! Don’t allow other people’s achievements to wittle down your inner drive in nurturing your vision and aspirations. Those people laboured to keep their grass that way, kindly take care of your own grass!
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