Welcome to #KingdomManna on #InspireAfricaProject! Several years ago, one of my favorite speakers said that, “You are not yet a failure until you blame someone for your challenges.” That phrase changed my perception about life forever. There is a natural tendency in man to always blame someone for every issue. In fact, it started from the Garden of Eden.
God said to Adam; “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?” Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.”And the Lord God said to the woman,“What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” Genesis 3:11-13. This was how irresponsibility was injected into man.
“There was a wonderful story told about a man who was out walking one night and met a man who was down on his knees looking for something under a streetlamp. The passerby asked what the other man was looking for. He answered that he was looking for his lost key.
The passerby offered to help and gets down on his knees and helped him search for the key. After an hour of fruitless searching, he said, “We’ve looked everywhere for it and we haven’t found it. Are you sure that you lost it here?” The other man replied, “No, I lost it in my house, but there is more light out here under the streetlamp.”~Jack Canfield.
Dear friend, it is time to stop looking outside yourself for answers to why you haven’t created the life and results you want, for it is you who creates the quality of the life you lead and the results you produce. You- no one else! To achieve major success in life- to achieve those things that are most important to you- you must assume one hundred percent responsibility for your life. Nothing less will do.
If you want to stand out in life and become a news maker, you must not blame anyone for your struggles. Blame game is the virus that renders people useless in life. You must take full responsibility for everything you experience in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health, and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings- your everything.
Most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, the media, our coworkers, our clients, our spouse, the weather, the economy, our astrological charts, our lack of money, the devil, ancestral spirits, our enemies- anyone or anything we can pin the blame on. We never want to look at where the real problem is- ourselves.
If you truly want to become a pacesetter in your generation, you must give up all excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons why you can’t and all your blaming of outside circumstances. You have to give them all up forever. You must take the position you have always had, the power to make things work, to get it right, to produce your desired result.
If somethings doesn’t turn out as planned, don’t look for whom to blame. Rather you will ask yourself, “How did I create this? What was I thinking? What were my beliefs? What did I say or not say? What did I do or not do to create that result? How did I get the other person to act that way? What do I need to do differently next time to get the result I want?”
Every outcome you experience in life (whether it is success or failure, wealth or poverty, health or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event or events in your life. Your inability to take full responsibility when something went wrong has given birth to the harvest you now have.
You must also understand that it is not the external conditions and circumstances that stop you- it is you! We stop ourselves! We think limiting thoughts and engage in self-defeating behaviors. We defend our self-destructive habits (such as drinking and smoking) with senseless logic.
We ignore useful feedback, fail to continuously educate ourselves and learn new skills, waste time on the trivial aspect of our lives, engage in idle gossip, eat unhealthy food, fail to exercise, spend more money than we make, fail to invest in our future, avoid necessary conflict, fail to tell the truth, don’t ask for what we want- and then wonder why our lives don’t work.
Unfortunately, instead of taking full responsibility for where we have found ourselves, we blame someone or something. We place the blame for everything that isn’t the way we want it on outside events and circumstances. We have excuses for everything that happens to us.
Dear friend, it is time to jettison blame game and take full responsibility for your life. I usually say that, if you fail to take full responsibility for your life, you may end up as a liability. George Washington Carver said, “99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.” Jim Rohn opined, “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the season, or the wind, but you can change yourself.”
Wayne Dyer concluded today’s treatise this way, “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” Dear friend, get rid of blame game today. I have never seen an irresponsible person who succeeded in life.
I discovered that if I take responsibility for my life, God will take charge of the things I cannot do because of human limitations. I may not determine when my destiny helpers will come, but if I get busy instead of waiting for them, God will orchestrate our meeting point. Welcome to the week of uncommon testimonies! (If you’re living in and around Abuja, kindly check the handbill below. Your life is about to change drastically).
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