Welcome to #InspireAfricaProject! Several years ago, I learnt that two people cannot fight unless both of them are mad at the same time. So what causes fight is corporate madness. If one person is angry, and the other person is not, there won’t be fight. That’s why some men who are considered too difficult to deal with are perfectly managed by some women. In fact, when you see the way he treats his wife, you will be wondering whether he is the same person that fights everywhere. The woman knows how to tame him.
The problem of couples that quarrel and fight all the time is simple, they are usually angry at the same time. For peace to reign in a family, the couple must not be mad at the same time. One person must learn how to keep calm. Am not trying to say that somebody must be mad. In fact, nobody should be mad in the first place. You can always settle every issue without anyone hearing your voices. But if one person is always mad, the other person should postpone his or her own madness in order to rescue the one who has gone mad.
David J. Schwartz shared the following life changing experience. “Some time ago, at the reservation desk of a hotel, I saw an excellent demonstration of the right way to handle angry people. It was shortly after 5 P. M, and the hotel was busy registering new guests. The fellow ahead of me gave his name to the clerk in a commanding way.
The clerk said, “Yes sir, Mr. R., we have a fine single room for you.” “Single?” Shouted the fellow. “I ordered a double.” The clerk said, very politely, “Let me check, sir.” He pulled the guest’s reservation from the file and said, “I’m sorry sir. Your telegram specified a single. I’d be happy to put you in a double room, sir, if we had any available. But we simply do not.”
Then the irate customer said, “do-you-know-who-I-am?” bit, followed with “I will have you fired. You will see, I will have you fired.” As best he could, under the verbal tornado, the young clerk injected, “Sir, we are terribly sorry, but we acted in your instructions.”
Finally the customer, really furious now, said, “I wouldn’t stay in the best suite in this— hotel now that I know how badly managed it is,” and stormed out. I stepped up to the desk, thinking the clerk, who had taken one of the worst tongue-lashing I have seen in some time would be upset. Instead he greeted me with one of the finest “Good evening, sir” I have ever heard.
As he went through the routine of processing my room, I said to him, “I certainly admire the way you handled yourself just a moment ago. You have tremendous temper control.” “Well, sir,” he said, “I really can’t get mad at a fellow like that. You see, he really isn’t mad at me. I was just the scapegoat. The poor fellow may be in bad trouble with his wife, or his business may be off, or maybe he feels inferior and this was his golden chance to feel like a wheel. I’m just the guy who gave him a chance to get something out of his system.”
The clerk added, “Underneath he is probably a very nice guy. Most folks are.” Walking toward the elevators, I caught myself repeating aloud, “Underneath he’s probably a very nice guy. Most folks are.” Remember those two short sentences next time someone declares war on you. Hold your fire. The way to win situations like this is to let the other fellow blow his stack and forget it.”
You see, naturally, almost every human being would love to fight back anytime someone says things we don’t like. But if you really want to have good relationships, heaven on earth marriage, and fantastic business partnership, you must be ready to endure someone’s temporal madness.
Show me a couple that fights all the time, and I will show you two self-centered individuals who cannot endure their temporal madness. Learning how to keep your mouth shut sometimes will save you from regret. I know that you hate insult, but you must endure it sometimes because there are many mad people across the world.
Several years ago, I was was reversing my car on the street, and I didn’t look well at the back before I moved the car. Suddenly, I heard a sound at the back. When I alighted from the car, I discovered that I bashed the bumper of the car behind me. The man said with anger, “Are you mad?” I replied, “No sir!” and the man started laughing. We settled the matter without a fight. If I had behaved like him, maybe I would have a scar on my body today from the fight that would have ensued.
I found out many years ago that the easiest way to live a peaceful life is to walk away from some troubles. I told a young man that had issue with anger to always walk away whenever he is angry. If you stay there and listen to the things the other person would say, you will end up giving someone a bloody nose. I want you to understand from today that there are a lot of mad people on earth. Try to help them to overcome the madness, but don’t forget to behave like the clerk we just shared his story. Wisdom is profitable to direct!
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